I LOVE YOU DAD

I can't believe I'm writing this, especially since my last blog post was about nonphysical communication with my dad while he was alive. Dad passed away on January 19, 2010, just three weeks after I wrote that story about him. The first thing on my mind was will dad contact me in some way? Will I still be able to communicate with him? And those who know me well have been asking, "So have you had contact with your dad since his death?"

Well, not yet. Not that I'm aware of anyway. So far I haven't sensed his presence in any way physically around me. But everyone's different, and I am not sure in what way would be dad's style. One way I expected was just to get the sense that dad was around me, talking to me, and that I'd feel his presence and words. I'll have to continue tuning into my nonphysical senses and seeing what I can pick up.

I am so fortunate and thankful to have come this far in my belief system...to know and believe that physical death is not the end but only a transition, and to be able to emotionally survive the death of one of my parents and be "ok". It will always be difficult having to endure the death of a loved one, but I truly know that death isn't the end of a life. My spiritual beliefs have comforted me, my psychic and paranormal life experiences have prepared me, and my sense of faith has supported me enough to know. And for that I am truely fortunate and eternally grateful.

So while I still haven't received any sign or feeling of dad's presence since his passing, I'm still talking to him every day, sending him my thoughts and messages. I know he's receiving it all. And I do believe I will have a contact experience from him in some way.

Some things I know:

1. Mom says dad didn't believe it was right to contact the other side and vice versa. However, now that he's there would his belief carry over and prevent him from making contact? Even so, could my belief in afterlife contact bridge this gap and show dad it's ok? I will always believe our loved ones receive our thoughts over there, whether or not we receive verification or contact. And in my heart I believe they find ways to get through to us...we just need to be open to receive it.

2. Bruce says sometimes those who have just passed are busy...not insofar as in the sense of time that we experience here in the physical, but more in a sense of frame-of-mind kind of busy. So, if you are trying to make contact and feel you're not receiving anything, it could mean that they are busy. They need time to get into the frame of mind, too, for making contact. They need time to adjust to the transition and their new surroundings and ways of being, and time to do some healing, growing, and learning as well. But our messages always get through no matter what. If you direct your thoughts to them, they will receive them. And they will get back to you when it's the right time.

3. Sometimes our own frame of mind is not conducive to receiving contact. We may be trying so hard to hear from them that we are not in the right frame of mind to listen and receive. Sometimes just doing mindless, everyday tasks is a perfect frame of mind for contact.

4. Bruce also suggested to me not to try so hard looking for physical signs but to just let the sign stick out on its own. A sign could be anything; you just have to notice it and discover what meaning it has for you. Our loved ones have our best interest at heart. They know our moods, feelings, and frames of mind, and they will try to get through to us when it's a good time or in a way we can notice.

When the ER team decided to stop trying to resuscitate Dad, I was relieved. It had been over an hour and I knew he was already gone and not coming back. Dad was only 69 but had suffered with congestive heart failure, peripheral neuropathy, atrial fibrillation, diabetes, and other health issues for many years. I was relieved for him, knowing he no longer had to put up with that failing physical body. When they stopped the rigorous chest compressions and allowed us to say our goodbyes, I put my hand in dad's and said, "I love you, Dad" and that was it. I didn't want to focus any longer on dad being physically dead, but wanted to transition my focus of thoughts to knowing that dad is a spiritual being (as we all are) who continues to live in what we call the afterlife.